Wednesday, June 11, 2008

Life and Relationships

"Healthy vs. Unhealthy Relationships"... By R. Barker

In Life, we have constant interactions with others. There are healthy interactions and unhealthy ones. What defines one versus the other? The primary difference is energetic. Are you both benefiting from the relationship or is one just taking and the other giving?

A healthy relationship is where both parties are giving and receiving and are honestly trying to help one another. This can be a healthy marriage, a close friendship or a win-win business relationship.

All too often, we find ourselves in unhealthy relationships, where we keep giving and giving, and the other person keeps taking and taking. I am not referring to a charity-type situation, where it seems that one is giving and the other is taking. (Although, in truth, the giver is actually receiving tremendous benefit from giving.)

We all have so-called friends we associate with, who are always asking for something, want you as a sounding board for ideas or a shoulder to cry on during difficult times – but who are not there for you when you need them. Or someone in business who always calls you for advice, but is quiet when you ask for it.

Reminding you to go through your relationships, one by one. Some unhealthy ones may be salvaged if the person is considerate at heart and made aware of his or her apparently unintentional behavior.. But most unhealthy relationships can not be saved. And the important thing for you to realize is that you are not honoring yourself by being in these unhealthy relationships. So start honoring yourself and find healthy ones today.


Mental P Mama said...

Something we need to be reminded of from time to time...thank you. Just what I needed this morning.

Tomate Farcie said...

When I first heard of this principle, I thought it was pretty harsh advice. But now, as I get older, I begin to see the wisdom in it.