Wednesday, June 04, 2008

Wisdom and Advice

"What’s Really Important"
by Sharon L of Kansas City...


I sat next to the bed of an old man, a friend for over twenty years, and held his hand. Hal was dying. We both knew these next few days would be his last.

We spent time reminiscing about his long and fruitful career as a church pastor. We talked about old friends. We chatted about his family. And I listened as he offered sage wisdom and advice to a member of a "younger generation."

At a lull in the conversation, Hal seemed to carefully consider what he was about to say next. Then he squeezed my hand, gazed intently into my eyes and whispered, just loud enough for me to hear, "Nothing is more important than relationships."

I knew that this was somehow near the pinnacle of his life's leanings. As he considered all of his experiences -- personal, professional, spiritual and family, this one ultimate observation surfaced above the rest: "Nothing is more important than relationships."

"Don't get overly caught up in your career," he seemed to be saying to me. "Likewise, don't use people in order to achieve your goals, then throw them away. No project, no program, no task should be pursued at the expense of friends and family. Remember," I heard him saying, as clearly as if he were speaking the words, "that in the end, only your relationships will truly matter. Tend them well."

Writer Og Mandino puts it this way: "Beginning today," he said, "treat everyone you meet as if he or she were going to be dead by midnight. Extend to them all the care, kindness, and understanding you can muster, and do so with no thought of any reward. Your life will never be the same again."

At the end of a long life, my friend Hal would have agreed.

Reminding you to work on refining your relationships, and you will have refined yourself.


8 comments:

Wanda said...

That old Pastor had it right. The most important thing is relationships. Family and friends.

I'm glad we met Patty, you are my long distant friend and I do theasure that relationship.

Have a great Day!!!
Love and Hugs
Wanda

Old Wom Tigley said...

Wise words indeed Patty.. :O)

Betsy said...

Wonderful advise!

Gramma Ann said...

I agree, good relationships with friends and family is worth much more then all the money in the world. Life without, friends and family would be a sad and unhappy way to live.

Abraham Lincoln said...

Family relationships are important.

Renie Burghardt said...

Wonderful advice!

Have a good night, Patty.

Renie

Merle said...

Dear Patty ~~ Great advice and how great to share that time with the elderly pastor and hear his views.
Thank you for sharing that with us.
Thanks also for your comments, glad you liked the jokes. My warm sheets wer wonderful and didn't slip around like the satin ones. I still wear satin nighties to help me turn over during the night. I notice I am feeling the cold more the older I get too. Take care, my friend.
Love, Merle.

reader Wil said...

What a beautiful story! And very true!